INSIGHT OF THE WEEK
“When we make a decision, it doesn’t have to be a decision for life. The idea that ‘we’ve made this bed and we need to lie in it’ keeps us stuck.” -Kim Ades
Making Values-Based Decisions with Rodney Wilts
Do you find yourself making decisions that don’t end up panning out for you? What do you do when you’ve made a life-altering decision that you wish you could go back on?
Rodney Wilts, the Co-owner of Theia Partners, has won many awards for his values-based Real Estate development company, but before that, he had to go back on some major life choices.
Listen as he and host Kim Ades discuss how to make decisions that align with your values and how to comfortably go back on decisions you’ve made in the past.
In this episode of Resilience Radio, we explore
- Change your mind easily when a decision you’ve made was not quite right.
- Manage a super successful, value-based company.
- Encourage social interaction in your community.
- Pivot when your dream job turns out to be a nightmare.
- Cope with your impatience to make things happen.
Take a Listen!
Transcription: Making Values-Based Decisions with Rodney Wilts
Here is a super interesting snippet of our conversation! See transcription (13:52 – 17:25):
Rodney Wilts: I went to law school and I dreamed of being an environmental lawyer. I was able to get a job at one of the best environmental law firms in the country called West Coast Environmental Law Office. It was my dream job, and my goodness, I found it terribly boring. I was young, enthusiastic and full of energy. I was sitting there looking a boring law textbook and I had worked so hard to get there, but I said, “No, I have to do something different.”
Kim Ades: Let’s talk about that because I think it’s very interesting. You had a law degree, which is not easy to get. Many years of study went into that and you basically took a sharp right turn and said “This is not where I want to be.” That must have been a difficult decision. Then you ended up starting a company, you grew it, and then you decided that you needed to depart from it, right?
Rodney Wilts: Yeah.
Kim Ades: So you’ve made many decisions in your life − well, at least two significant decisions − that involved spending a lot of time, energy, money and focus on building something that you then abandoned.
Rodney Wilts: Yeah.
Kim Ades: Now, I think that our decisions to leave something behind are just as important as our decisions to start something new.
Rodney Wilts: Sure. When I sold that business, I didn’t have the degree of mentorship that I would have liked to have had around me. But when I was working at West Coast Environmental Law − and I will never forget this and I pass on this advice on to our younger employees − I interviewed a guy named Harold Kalke. He was one of the pioneering green developers. He had built the David Suzuki Foundation headquarters on Fourth Avenue in Vancouver. I sat down with him and we spent the bulk of a day together, which was so generous and amazing. Here I was, this young kid who didn’t know anything about development.
One of the things he said to me that stuck with me was, “Look, life is just a series of rooms. You get into a room, and the only thing you know about that room is that there are two exits, and you can’t choose the door that you just came in. So if you end up in a room and you don’t like it and things aren’t happening the way you would like, jump into the next room to see what it’s like. If you love it, stay there for a while, if you don’t, you know that there are more doors. Choose a door, make a decision.” That was his philosophy, and he said this to me when I was working as a lawyer in Vancouver and not loving. So if you’re not loving it, you can just leave the room and do something different. More options will come down the line.
Kim Ades: I really want to highlight this idea that when we make a decision, it doesn’t have to be a decision for life. We can depart from that decision, we can make a new decision and we can go on a different path. The idea that ‘I’ve made my bed, I have to lie in it’ is a belief that many of us have that keep us stuck in a place of misery for a very, very long time. So I think that’s a very important lesson: life is a series of rooms. If you don’t like the room you’re in, go to the next one. And if you don’t like that one, there are many more rooms attached to it.
Making tough decisions doesn’t need to lead us to a result we’re uncomfortable with, and re-evaluating past decisions doesn’t need to create turmoil and angst.
Both actions can lead us to a result that totally aligns with our values.
If you are struggling to make a decision or if you regret a decision you’ve made and don’t know how to find peace with it, schedule a complimentary coaching call with us and let us help you immediately!