5 Tips to Get the Most out of Coaching

Here are five quick coaching tips to help you make the most out of coaching and see quicker progress.
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5 Tips to Get the Most out of Coaching

Are you working with a coach or thinking about signing up with one? You might be excited to get started right away—which is great! Either way, doing a little “pre-coaching” mental homework up front can help you hit the ground running when you do get started.

With some coaching tips at your back before your first session begins, you’ll experience more results a lot faster than if you walk into the experience without any prep. Here are five quick coaching tips to help you make the most out of coaching and see quicker progress.

5 Quick Coaching Tips

1. Let go of goals and focus on the BIG goal

Most people come into a coaching session with a bunch of pre-planned goals. From advancing professionally to improving your personal relationships, you probably have many goals you’d like to tackle.

While goals are great to have, our first coaching tip is actually about letting go of some of those goals in favor of slowing things down and taking a broader view of your life. Instead, when you start coaching, think about the BIG goal—a goal all of us share.

The big goal is simple: I want to live a life full of greater ease, peace, and happiness. 

That’s what all our little goals are about anyway, right? They’re just stepping stones toward a more enriching, thrilling, peaceful, and happy day-to-day life.

The best part? When you start believing this, something funny happens: your little goals get accomplished along the way.

2. Think about your beliefs instead of your actions

Our second coaching tip is related to the first, but it’s going to help a lot, too. Instead of listing out all the specific actions you’re taking or not taking to live a better life, start thinking about how your underlying beliefs INFORM those actions.

For instance, if one of your goals is to stop procrastinating so much, try to get at the root of the belief. Do you procrastinate because you feel like you don’t have enough time to finish everything at once? Or is it because the work you’re currently doing feels uninspiring?

Once you have a clearer understanding of the deeper beliefs that motivate you, your coach will be able to help you progress much faster. 

3. Journal, journal, journal 

Have you heard of the A.B.J. principle? It’s simple:




This is probably the number one coaching tip when it comes to speeding up your progress. Journaling is a wonderful way to clear your mind, understand your current thoughts and beliefs, make note of the kind of future you want and much, much more. In short—if you haven’t already started journaling, get on it ASAP! 

4. Assume positive intent

Coaching is about finding a way to live a happier, more exhilarating life. A big part of that includes “assuming positive intent” in others. What do we mean by that?

Assuming positive intent means believing that for the most part, other people you encounter want the best for both themselves AND for other people. Contrary to being out to get you, they’re there to help and support you as much as possible. This is true of both your coach and the people in your circle. 

It might be hard to believe this at first. You might know some people who don’t seem to have your best interests in mind. But assuming they do always leads to better outcomes—because when you stop focusing on what they’re doing wrong, you start experiencing a lot more of (and appreciating) what they’re doing right. 

More than that, you stop spending precious time thinking that people are trying to tear you down… and that time can be used to build yourself up instead. 

5. Don’t coach others, yet

Coaching is WONDERFUL. We love it, and once you get started, we’re sure you’ll love it, too. With that said, though…

It’s tempting to coach other people. When you’re feeling great, you want to share all the things you’ve learned with your friends, family and coworkers. But people who aren’t onboard with coaching yet aren’t going to get as much out of the exchange as you. Just like you, they have to want to experience coaching, and they won’t feel the benefits if they’re not in the right headspace for it. 

So, don’t coach others until you gain the skills to do so and you’ve received their permission to be coached. Let people SEE the results for themselves. When they see you living a happier, more fulfilling life, they might ask, “How did you get to such a good place?”

And that’s when you can refer them to coaching.

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