Client Spotlight: Pat Bocchicchio
Name: Patrick J Bocchicchio
Job: Broker/ Owner of KingsGate Realty LLC
Coaching: 10 weeks 1-1 coaching with Kim Ades and group coaching
Why did you pursue coaching with Frame of Mind Coaching?
I sought out coaching because my peers and competitors were all being coached and I had just opened a new real estate office. Money was tight, and I was scared to death. I knew things weren’t working in my life, and that I needed direction. By chance, I did business with Dave Gorham, a Frame of Mind Coach and a competitor in a nearby brokerage firm. He recommended that I try out FOM. I took an assessment online and Kim reached out by phone. Within five minutes, I knew I wanted to be coached by her. Before she hung up the phone, her last words were, “Put your seatbelt on because this is going to be a good ride!”
What Pat learned from coaching:
-Embrace the change, because change is growth. It’s very hard to surrender yourself to change, even when it is positive change. Before coaching, I had formed a set of beliefs and life patterns that followed me around. It was very scary to leave my comfort zone and embrace new thoughts and ideas.
-I learned that I had a significant belief that prevented me from running a profitable company. Before coaching, I was way in debt. After coaching, I turned my loss into consistent profit.
-I learned how to be more present and more aware. I learned how to recognize the little miracles in life. It’s a process. You have to recognize the small things in your life before you can naturally recognize the big things. What’s amazing is watching the small miracles grow into big ones.
-I learned how to love myself and forgive myself. I used to go to church every day and beat myself up. I would suffer, because I always felt guilty and I never forgave myself. Kim challenged me, asking “Is that what you really think God wants from you?” When I go to church now, I feel like celebrating.
-I have a completely different mindset than I used to have. I am less frustrated at work. Even when I face hurdles, I have more confidence that I can work through them. I make sure I am not stuck in the mud for long. It’s amazing how much one person can accomplish with a focused, powerful mind.
What was the hardest part of coaching?
The hardest part of coaching was being 110% honest with myself and with Kim. Coaching brought up difficult memories that were painful to work through. To really get to the root of things, I had to be brutally honest. It was hard work.
What was it like getting coached by Kim?
Every week was magical for me and I knew I was changing as a person. I decided to write Oprah to tell her about Kim and Frame of Mind Coaching. I’ll never forget describing Kim as the Dalai Lama – as someone compassionate and intuitive. Kim has a gift of identifying where you are and what you need to work on.
What advice would you give others thinking about pursuing coaching?
For anyone thinking about coaching – just do it! Don’t wait to save the money because it will never happen, just do it and do it now. Commit yourself to ten weeks to change your life, and your kids’ lives. You will find true happiness and learn to love yourself so you can love others and be loved.