Kim Ades Featured in Published! Magazine
Kim was featured in Published! Magazine. You can read her article below or click to see the full issue.
Kim Ades, MBA, is President and Founder of Frame of Mind Coaching™ and Journal Engine™ software. She is one of North America’s foremost experts on performance through thought management. By using her unique process of coaching through journaling, she works with clients to unveil and switch their thought patterns to ignite significant change and life transformation.
I: How did your passion ignite into your wonderful purpose and contribution?
KA: At Frame of Mind Coaching™, we coach highly driven individuals who are determined to live extraordinary lives and are facing a challenge, a conflict, or some kind of adversity and are finding it difficult to make a very important decision at this point in their lives.
The way we coach them is interesting. We always begin with a 10-week coaching period. There’s a call once a week for 10 weeks, we record all of our coaching calls so that our clients can listen to them again, and we ask our clients to journal every single day for the duration of the coaching period. What we’re looking at is the way a person thinks, and how their thinking ultimately affects the results that they’re getting in their personal and professional lives.
The basic premise of our coaching is that there’s no bigger impact on your life than the way you think and the way that your beliefs lead you to take certain actions – both positive and negative. Frame of Mind Coaching™ is focused on really understanding how your thoughts serve you, and how some of your thoughts get in your way and prevent you from reaching the goals you really want to reach.
Years ago, I owned a software company, and we were building assessments. Those assessments were designed to identify who would be a top performer in a variety of industries. What we discovered was that no matter what the industry was and no matter what the position was, in all cases, there was one key differentiator that helped us identify who would be more likely to succeed. People with a higher degree of emotional resilience are more likely to achieve outstanding results than others. In other words, people who are able to bounce back from adversity and leverage their challenge were more likely to be top achievers in their field.
This finding led me to investigate coaching. I looked at a lot of coaching programs, and I discovered that most coaching programs focus on helping people achieve their goals by creating action plans, breaking the action plans into smaller components and holding their clients accountable for getting things done. I thought to myself, “Wouldn’t it be interesting if rather than creating action plans we started to investigate what prevents someone from having a high level of emotional resilience?”
Here is the key: emotional resilience is highly dependent on the way a person interprets the events that have happened to them. Anything can happen to anyone, positive or negative, and the story that you tell yourself about that event will influence your emotional resilience. Frame of Mind Coaching™ is really about identifying how people think about any subject and really looking at whether or not their thinking propels them forward or holds them back. What we do is shine a light on their thinking and we help them see how some thinking can aid them in getting the results they want, and some thinking, while it may have served them in the past, may no longer be useful.
Journaling is a huge component of self-exploration. Journaling allows you to write down your thoughts and then look at them from a more objective point of view. That’s what we use in our coaching. If you want to do the work on your own, my strong recommendation is start journaling and ask yourself some critical questions. I’ll give you three right off the bat. The questions are:
What do I want?
Why do I want it?
Why don’t I have it now?
The answers to those questions will provide you with tremendous insight, particularly the last question – “Why don’t I have what I want right now?” This will give you all the reasons, all the beliefs, and all the excuses you’re using to hold yourself apart from what it is that you really want.
I also recommend that you experiment with coaching. It’s important that you find the right coach and you find someone that you resonate with. You have to find a process that makes sense for you. You have to feel like you’re in good hands.
You’re going to have to be willing to journal every day. You have to be willing to dig deep and you have to be willing to get personal, both professionally and personally. I love hearing from people. I love answering questions. I love people who are curious. Reach out.