Is your Cow Delivering the Goods?
I was in the car with Ferne, my nearly 14-year-old daughter, and we were talking about the very unique relationship that she has with her 4 brothers and Allan, the men in the house.
Ferne: It’s hard to talk to the boys.
Me: Why is that?
Ferne: They just aren’t very good listeners.
Me: You are right, they aren’t always the best listeners, but just because they don’t listen well, doesn’t mean that they aren’t good people.
Ferne: How can you say that?
Me: Well, let’s take Allan as an example. Whenever you need anything from Allan, he’s there. If you need a lift, he’s there. If you need a book, he finds it for you. If you need forms filled out, he takes care of it for you. He’s a great guy – even if he’s not the best listener.
Ferne: That’s true.
Me: The problem is that you are expecting to get wine out of a cow. Cows don’t deliver wine – they deliver milk and when you expect to get wine but you get milk instead, you get disappointed. Stop expecting to get wine from a cow. Instead, milk the cow, add a little chocolate, and enjoy.