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In Absentia

by Kim Ades June 30, 2015

You may have noticed that you haven’t received a newsletter from us in the last few weeks.

My father-in-law passed away just over three weeks ago. He was a man who epitomized the Frame of Mind way of life, and Allan and I feel his passing very deeply.

Arnold, my father-in-law, understood the concept of emotional resilience at his very core.  No matter what life threw at him, he always greeted adversity head on.  For me, Arnold was a kindred spirit – always seeking the opportunity in every situation and looking at life through a very positive lens.  He was hopeful and he trusted things around him to unfold in his favour…and they often did.

In order for you to understand a little bit more about this amazing man, I’d like to share an excerpt from Allan’s eulogy:

Triumph over adversity.  My father always triumphed over adversity.  Whether it was the depths of the depravity of the concentration camps of the Holocaust, which he emerged from at age 16, any of his 3 rounds of cancer, the arson that destroyed his business, the onset of diabetes or even kidney failure, my father always triumphed.  And he did so with seeming ease — with a smile, with a joke, and with a strength of mind that defied conventional norms. Doctors were in awe of him, and nurses loved him. Family and friends respected and admired him. No matter what life threw at him, he smiled and overcame it.  I always said that my father was the only person I knew of who, when it was his time to go, would not have a single person on the face of the earth who would have a bad or negative thing to say about him. 

It is with incredible sadness that I say goodbye to him. He was larger than life in so many ways…a true gentleman in every sense of the word. A survivor of Auschwitz, an entrepreneur, a musician, a humorist, a truly gentle soul, and so so much more. He leaves behind an incredible legacy — 2 kids, 7 grandkids, a loving strong wife of almost 56 years…and a community and world that is a better place for his presence in it.

He used his wits and his sense of humour to open up new worlds and new opportunities, and he did it with grace and charm.  He taught his children and grandchildren to always hold their heads up high and be proud of who they are, whether in the face of success or adversity.  And he taught them what he knew…to triumph.  So whatever the world threw at him, he overcame it and triumphed.  

Maya Angelou said: “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”  I think she had my father in mind when she wrote those words.”

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