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Guidance From Experts and Strangers

by Kim Ades January 25, 2018

As entrepreneurs and leaders, we need help far more than we realize, but many of us aren’t used to asking others for guidance.

We were at the Yard House for dinner at the Gulf Stream complex in Florida. It was a beautiful night and we decided to sit outside for our meal. We had just finished dinner and after three glasses of water, I got up to go to the bathroom.

I walked inside and as I headed toward my destination, I noticed a table of about eight teenage girls and one teenage boy all huddled together. The boy stood up.

He marched over to the waiter, put his arm around his shoulder and asked, “You see that girl?” He pointed to the one sitting closest to him. “I really like her. Do you have any advice for me?”

I couldn’t stay to hear the rest of the conversation, but when I came out of the bathroom, I caught the waiter’s attention.

“Did you give him some guidance?” I asked.

“I hope so,” he said.

“What advice did you give him?” I was curious!

“I told him to pay attention to her. To listen to what she has to say. To compliment her whenever she changes her style and tell her how good she looks. I also told him to make her laugh.”

“Good advice. Did you know that guy? Is he a friend of yours?” I continued to probe.

“Nope, never met him before.”

“Interesting. I wonder why he asked you for advice.”

“I don’t know.”

“Probably because you’ve got a lot of mojo.”


I felt that I had caught a precious slice of life on so many fronts:

1. A young boy smitten with a girl, trying to figure out the ropes of romance.

2. The same boy, having the courage to ask for help from a complete stranger who he felt might know a thing or two about girls.

3. Generosity from the stranger, offering whatever guidance he could.

It occurred to me that most of us don’t have the courage to ask anyone for help, let alone a stranger! We would rather struggle in silence than admit we need help.

As entrepreneurs and leaders, we need help far more than we realize. We think that we can do it all ourselves and feel a sense of shame when we don’t have all the answers. Many of us aren’t used to asking others for guidance.

We can easily find solutions to our biggest problems when we ask experts for their advice. In fact, that’s exactly what my team of coaches and I do for our clients: we offer up fresh perspectives on the problems that they have been struggling with on their own for far too long.

Take our assessment and schedule a complimentary coaching call with a member of our team. Get the help you need but are hesitant to ask for.

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