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Is “I’m Good” Good Enough?

by Frame of Mind April 15, 2014

When’s the last time you asked someone, “How are you?” and heard them respond, “I’m amazing” “I’m phenomenal” or “I’m so good”?

Not recently, I bet.

Have a listen on the subway, at work, in the malls and in public restaurants. I assure you, the conversation in most cases will go something like this:


“Hey, how are you?”

“I’m good, how are you?

“I’m good.”

Let’s examine this for a moment.

Good – meaning average, satisfactory or just plain OK.

But is “good” good enough? Are you okay with just “alright?”

I walked into an upscale bar on a date recently, on a chilly Saturday evening. After waiting in line for a few minutes, we approached the hostess to be seated.

She smiled at us and beckoned us forward. “Hi. How are you?” She asked out of habit and politeness.

“I’m amazing,” my date replied. The hostess stopped mid-step and looked up with rapt interest. “Oh really?” she asked, her brow raised.

We proceeded to sit down on bar stools, and a jovial bartender greeted us in our seats. “Heya, how’s it going?” he asked, while pouring cocktails.

“I’m so good,” my date replied. The bartender grinned. “That’s awesome. Few people say that, you know.”

I was amazed, and I thought, “If changing up the colloquial script in a bar setting could yield such incredulity, what kind of effect could it yield in other settings?

So I began analyzing the robotic response of “I’m good.”

Let’s take a look.


It’s a formality. It’s a default. If you think about it, it’s an expression devoid of expression and meaning.

These two words reek with dullness and banality. The retort implies normalcy. It implies, “My life is fine. I am going through the motions. I am living.”

Are you okay with just being fine?

If not – I challenge you to escape the automatism of just being fine and to step into a life of excitement and fulfillment.

Having a great day? Share it. Say, “I’m ecstatic.” “I’m wonderful.” “I’m inspired.” “I’m excited.” “I’m gratified.” “I’m heavenly.” “I’m cheerful.” “I’m fantastic.” 

I challenge you to escape the meaningless, pre-scripted pleasantries and to engage in dialogue that invigorates those around you.

I challenge you to turn heads with your zest and gusto.

Once you do so, then you can decide if “I’m good” is good enough.

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