Client Spotlight: Terrie Peters
Why did you decide to pursue Frame of Mind Coaching?
By a fluke, I wound up listening to an ATD webinar in which Kim Ades, the founder of FOM Coaching, was the speaker. My boss accidentally double-booked two webinars, and asked me to listen to Kim’s. After realizing that her webinar was about coaching, I was intrigued, so I stayed on even though it wasn’t work-related. And it hit me: I thought, “This is what I need to be doing. What are the chances that this just dropped into my lap?” I jumped on it right away. I always say that everything happens for a reason.
What were you struggling with before coaching and was it affected?
There were so many changes going on at work, and lots of ambiguity as to what I should be doing. I was in a constant state of anxiety. Prior to coaching, when I faced indecision, I would put it on the backburner. Coaching turned that all around. I am now able to think about my workload in such a positive way. I find myself extremely productive and able to clearly focus on what is in front of me.
I had been at the company for thirteen years, and despite my lengthy to-do list, I felt stagnant. I received great feedback at work, but nothing was moving for me. I had reached a dead end and was miserable because of it. Carla’s coaching helped me see that what wasn’t moving was me! With her guidance, I started changing my thinking. The second I did so, my entire life changed too. I received a great promotion at work, and an amazing condo deal fell into my lap after years of looking!
I had also been struggling to get my CPLP certificate. I would tell myself that I’ve never been good a taking tests, and that this one would be no different. Carla showed me how my thinking was impacting my results. She helped me shift my thinking from worrying about passing the test, to focusing on what I was trying to deliver. Once I did that, I passed it.
My relationship had been going south as well. Now, whenever I find myself in a silly argument with my boyfriend, I remember the FOM Coaching principle: I can either be right, or I can be happy. This particular principle has helped me in a big way to focus on what’s important in my relationship, and to let go of the rest. It was an amazing transformation.
What was the experience of journaling every day like for you?
At the beginning, the idea of journaling every day was daunting. What I discovered was that writing daily actually helped me to alleviate stress. I found that rereading what I had written in the days prior was extremely informative as well as therapeutic. I still journal, and I recommend it to people all the time.
Has coaching affected your work?
Absolutely. Carla would ask me, “what story are you telling yourself about it, and do you have any evidence to support it?” I was actually telling myself all these stories that weren’t valid. Now, when I catch myself focusing on something negative, I remind myself that what I focus on grows. I still use the FOM tools. I even carry around the principles of thought management with me.
Would you recommend FOM to others?
I have, and I do! It was a fantastic experience. You own your own development. This whole process was developmental in nature. I’m so glad that I did this. If you don’t invest in yourself, no one will.